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In case no one has informed you, there are days when being a mommy is a hard, confusing job.

Being a mommy is hard even in the best of conditions. You know, like when you are fully rested, showered and have eaten something “real” in the past six to eight hours.

Let’s NOT talk about how hard it can be to be a mommy when those elements are missing. Like when your kid is teething or sleep deprived or just plain cranky-for-no-apparent-reason-so-let’s-hang-on-Mom-and-scream-about-it.

As a mom, we feel pressure to make sure so many things are “right” for our kids. It’s natural to want to be the best we can be for our kids. However, the desire to be the best mom leads to the dreaded Mom-guilt often.

For instance, I know I shouldn’t give my kid sugar. I mean, this kid clearly has enough energy as it is, why would I make that worse? Why have to deal with the sugar crash an hour later? Yet, for the sake of being able to complete anything (like going to the bathroom) I cave and give her sugary cereal to distract her.

Cue the Mom-guilt.

Now, let’s add in the fact that I am a Christian mom who wants more than anything to live my life in a way that makes my kids want to know and love Jesus too.

For instance, I know that I should be studying Scripture on a daily basis, yet some days all I can manage is reading my few Bible verses on my Bible Gateway app. Honestly, all my daughter sees is me staring at my phone screen for a few extra minutes. How will she know that Mommy is reading Scripture instead of Facebook?

Cue the Christian Mom-guilt.

While I realize that grace is required during this journey of being a mom, it is easy to listen to Satan’s discouraging voice feeding me lies. You know the ones, you can’t do this right, she is going to end up an atheist stripper in Vegas. (I know it is extreme but Mom-guilt thoughts go crazy places, especially when mixed with pregnancy hormones!) 🙂

What Is Your Aim As A Christian Mom?

Recently, my husband has been working on creating a new mission statement for the library he manages. With my background as a business major, we were discussing how important it is for a business to have this overarching goal to pursue. Having a main purpose is so necessary and important to keep a business moving in the right direction.

And then God started prompting me.

Write down a Mommy mission statement. Clarify and define what God wants me to take as my main mission as a mommy.

Honestly, as soon as the idea struck, I couldn’t sleep for the rest of the night (totally unrelated to the seventh bathroom trip to pee.) It made sense. If multi million dollar corporations can’t function well without their purpose and missions being clearly written and defined, how could I as Mom expect less?

 

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5 Reasons Why I Am Writing A Mommy Mission Statement

What is my ultimate purpose and mission as a Christian mom to my kids?

That question leads to the five main reasons I have decided to wrestle and write out my Mommy mission statement.

Here they are with very little particular order:

Reason #1: I want to focus on what God wants of me in this season of parenting.

Personally, I find it easy to get distracted thinking about the big picture of parenting. You know, the really BIG stuff like preparing them for college or something. While I want to plan and prepare for all the big things they will face in the future, I don’t want to do so at the cost of today, this moment I have with them now. A Mommy Mission statement should help me see the big picture but give me release to enjoy and savor the current moments more.

 

Reason #2: I want to have something in writing to remind me on hard days why I am doing what I am doing.

During the course of parenting, it is inevitable that there will be those really hard days. The ones that leave a mom’s heart and spirit shriveled and exhausted by the end of the day. The days when as a mom, I crawl into bed and just cry into my husband’s shoulder as I fall asleep. Days when I am beyond tired and discouraged. On those days, I want something physical and written in front of me to serve as a reminder and an encouragement to keep going.

 

Reason #3: I want to be able to decide what I need to say yes to in my life and schedule as a mom.

When I do know that in the big picture of things, Goal A and B are my main priorities as a mom, I will be able to see opportunities that arise that match those goals easier.

For example, say I want my kid to memorize Bible passages from a young age. As I scroll through my email, I see an offer forwarded to me from a friend that provides a free Bible memorization curriculum. It will be easy in light of my Mommy Mission to see that this is something worth while taking some of my time and attention.

 

Reason #4: I want to be able to freely and without guilt say no to things that are not currently going to help me be the Mommy God is calling me to be.

The flip side of being aware of what I could and should say yes to as Mom, is being aware and able to say no to what will not be leading me closer to the goal. If you are anything like me, I struggle with saying no to good things. Every activity at church, every kid-friendly community project, every educational program are good things in and of themselves. But not every one of them is good or helpful to me and my family.

A solid Mommy Mission statement will help me weed out the unhelpful and unnecessary with a greater freedom from guilt about “missing out” on something. It will be a way to provide free space in our lives and schedules so we can say yes to the things that God does want us doing.

 

Reason #5: I want a vision for the future that will help me speak truth through the lies of Mom-guilt.

I want my entire Mommy Mission Statement (okay, and life overall!) to be based off of God’s Truth.

Seeking to pursue God and His truth in a passionate, concrete manner will help me fight the lies that Satan throws in my face during my moments of weakness and struggle. I need solid truth that will be ingrained into my mind and visible on my mirror, my fridge, and my computer screen. When the lies and Mom-guilt try to have a foothold over my emotions, I will be able to refute them.

And that, my friends, is why I am currently writing a Mommy mission statement.

 

Want to write your own Mommy Mission Statement? Here is the post where I walk you through the process that I took!

Resources To Help You Go Farther

Becoming MomStrong: How to Fight with All That’s in You for Your Family and Your Faith

Written by a mom to 7 kids, Heidi St. John candidly shares the good, bad and ugly of growing into the role of motherhood as God designed it. Believe me, if there is one book that that I would recommend to every mom, it would be this one. Read it, be encouraged, and then start battling for the hearts and souls of your kids!

Missional Motherhood: The Everyday Ministry of Motherhood in the Grand Plan of God This book is on my To Be Read pile of books. However, many of my mommy friends who I trust with book recommendations say it is by far one of their favorite motherhood books. Also, from all of the reviews that I have read of this book, it doesn’t matter what stage of motherhood you are in, you will be able to find something helpful from this book.

The Power of a Praying® Mom: Powerful Prayers for You and Your Children Personally, if there is one area I know that I can always stand to grow in as a Christian mom, it is in my prayer life! This book helps keep our families lifted up in prayer.

A Mom After God’s Own Heart: 10 Ways to Love Your Children If you are new to the world of being a Christian mom, or are looking for a reminder of the basics of Christian motherhood, this book is for you!

Your Turn

What are some ways you clarify to yourself and perhaps to others what is important to you as a Christian mom?

How do you wage war against Satan’s lies and the Mom-guilt when they come knocking?

I would love to hear more about it in the comments below or you can always send me an email at amber@ambitionsforchrist.com.

Thanks for stopping by!

 

 

 

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